Parisha Taylor emphasizes the need to relinquish control of the “how” of the “what”. A light bulb that turned on for me today was the recognition that it has been my desperate efforts to control “how” something must happen that has caused all of the anxiety I have experienced in life.

One of the most extreme examples of this for me was my approach to parenting. My “what” that related to my sons was a deep desire and yearning that they would find happiness in life. That part made sense to me. Looking back, the part that does not make sense and only caused me grief was the intensity I felt that I was responsible to ensure that happiness was their experience. When I witnessed any discomfort they were going through, I felt totally responsible and became miserable in my inadequacy. I desperately tried to control how I believed their lives should be.

~ Jessika Adams